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THE GENDER SPECTRUM
A quick study on biological sex versus gender, and the importance of love, compassion and acceptance.
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My Journey!
I wanted to write this in honor of suicide prevention week, but I could never quite formulate things in my head well enough to get it on paper. Honestly, every week should be suicide prevention week, so here goes my story. I don't know that anyone knows all of this. I'm not sure that I…
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God Unraveled
If you follow me on Facebook the next few posts might sound familiar. I wanted to share them on my blog to have all of my thoughts in one place…you know for when I write that incredible best selling book one day! 🙂 I have spent a lot of time reflecting on my past in…
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The Lord’s Name in Vain
I wanted to take a moment to share a bit about my family so that you understand why I am so passionate about this blog. I have a wonderful husband, to whom I have been married for over 30 years. I am about as basic, white, heterosexual as they come. However, God saw fit to…
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The Overcomplicated Gospel
I spent well over 20 years in several very conservative churches and with covid have now spent a good year watching similar churches online. As I have been on a journey of reconstructing my faith, something has really struck me, kinda like a giant gong on the forehead! The gospel of Jesus is being so…
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JUDGEMENT!
I have spent the last few weeks scouring my Bible, all of my favorite search sites, talking to all of my favorite people and spending lots of time in prayer. My quest? To better understand the concepts of "biblical conviction" and "righteous judgement". These are phrases that I became very familiar with in my 20…
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PAIN!
This week has been difficult for our family. A nineteen year old co-worker of my oldest daughter was killed in a very tragic car accident. The pain on her face as she ran in, fell to the floor, and told me what had happened is that pain, that guttural pain, that is soul deep. It…
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ANXIETY!
So many decisions I have made in my life boil down to this one little, gigantic, weak, forceful, debilitating, empowering word...ANXIETY! Yeah, I promise I re-read that sentence, but when you struggle with anxiety it takes on a life of its own and becomes ALL of those things to you. There are days when you…
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GAY!
The best thing that ever happened to me was my daughter telling me she was gay! Yes, you read that right! The BEST thing! See, prior to that, my goal in life was to be the nicest person I could possibly be. In fact, my sweet Mama used to always say to me, "now be…
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BOXES
I live in the country which has led to a mild to moderate Amazon addiction, and therefore, a concurrent love/hate relationship with boxes. I am always way more torn than I should be about the fate of my Amazon boxes. How many should I keep? Which sizes should I keep? Should I break them down…
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CLOBBERED: Part 1
Trigger Warning: There is mention of sexual assault in this blog. My beautiful daughter once shared with me that it breaks her heart to see her friends getting engaged and married, knowing that when she gets engaged or married to her partner that the love and support for her relationship, will just not be quite…
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SEEDS!
"I will join you in screaming this from the rooftops" "I am so inspired by your bravery to do and say what you know to be true" "you are helping so many people see God's real love" "you have helped me to maintain an open heart and an open mind" "thank you for staying strong…
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SCRIPTURE!
If you had sat in church in the 1800's it is quite likely that you would have heard from the pulpit that it was perfectly acceptable to own slaves because the Bible said so. You would have even been encouraged to bring your slaves to church with you because teachings from Ephesians and Colossians would…
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SOMEONE!
You haven't had Covid.....SOMEONE has! You haven't lost someone due to Covid.....SOMEONE has! You don't have an immunocompromised child.....SOMEONE does! You don't enjoy wearing a mask.....NO ONE does! You don't live in poverty.....SOMEONE does! You haven't experienced a crippling accident.....SOMEONE has! You haven't lost your job.....SOMEONE has! You haven't experienced prejudice.....SOMEONE has! You haven't experienced…
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CRY!
Some days are just hard! Some days you just need to cry! Some days you just need to cry a lot! Today was one of those days. I'm not exactly sure what triggers those days....hormones, weather, disappointment, life....but whatever it is, it makes for brutal days, and even worse...brutal nights. FYI, I am an empath!…
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JOURNEY!
I have so many things that I want.....NEED.....to say! Where to start, without boring you to death? HMMM!! I'll go back to, somewhat, the beginning when we joined an Independent Fundamental Baptist Church. We remained members of this denomination for about 20 years (I promise I won't relive all of those years), but for the…
Welcome to my Mid-Life Crisis
Here is my trigger warning.....I'm about to get into all things boob and uterus related....not in a fun sexy way, but in an "I'm tired and old as hell" kind of way, so if you are afraid of uteruses (or is it uteri?), or if your funny bone is broken, this might not be the post for you!!
REDISCOVERING MY WHY
I abandoned my blog for a season. I needed to regroup and rediscover my why....and when I say my why, I really mean my who. I was writing from a space of anger and bitterness. I was writing from a space of fear and sadness. I was writing from a space of resentment....a space where…
Ugly Perfection 